Girls versus Boys and Boys versus Girls
While this article is entertaining it is not without bias and there are many reasons to dispel this piece of writing. Amy Gross uses all or nothing statements and very generic stereotypes of only two types of men, when in fact within those two types there are many more. She has neglected to accurately state what a masculine man is and what he is not.
She uses personal experiences to back up her ideal man. While the imagery strikes up visualizations of an artistic male, she steers clear of this. Despite her need to stereotype she does not stereotype correctly. Androgynous men can be effeminate as well as masculine; is that not the entire point of this piece? Just because a man has both feminine and masculine qualities, it does not necessarily mean it will interfere with his orientation. Females as well as males can be masculine. Here is a fact she claims, “That high masculinity in males and high femininity in females has been consistently linked with lower overall intelligence and creativity.” (Line 9) This article is simply bias and without much evidence to support her strong opinion.
The stereotype she continuously refers to is that all-men men are cold and unemotional, this is a jaded statement. Females as well as males are capable of being indifferent, it is without gender bias. Admittedly, the most seemingly masculine men are taught to be strong but as the author discredits the fact that there are many masculine men who were raised by single mothers’. It is unfair to say that all men are unsympathetic it seems the author desperately needs to prove this point. Repeatedly she uses personal experiences and one absent-minded study, overlooking the vital factors that determine the outcome of this behavior. The interesting passage is in [Line 3] where she recalls vividly on an encounter with a "man’s man" where she does not respond accordingly to his disrespectful demeanor. She complains that men are unemotional yet she is unable to communicate her feelings effectively to the man. Another interesting factoid is that not only are all-men men unrefined they also lack anything interesting to say and well she claims she cannot speak to them either. (Lines 3 and 5) At least the author recognizes that there are different types of men, but she fails to recognize anymore than just that.
Mr. Todd starts this article with a fact; girls now do better in school than boys. (Line 2) Where has he been all this time, females in general have done better in school than boys for years now. He also complains that females have been given more opportunity in the workplace. (Line 2) What is wrong with this does he not recall the Woman’s Work Movement? The fact is that females are still mistreated in the workforce. The author is in short upset that society is a little less patriarchal than it used to be and males are seemingly deemed as being useless.
The author is correct is saying that females will receive more help than males but males also do not seek out help as much or even admit they have a problem. What he also fails to address is that girls are naturally more ambitious. Does he think it’s a pure coincidence that girls are doing better in school? He expels statements in a manner which suggests favoritism and not hard work. This article although making a valid concern, has disavowed the other factors that contribute to poor male performance. “In Britain, while girls 15-17 are becoming more optimistic, boys are becoming more pessimistic and introverted, suffering from low self-esteem and lack of ambition, which leads to poor study skills.” (Line 16) The question is has he really considered this a possibility? Most high school drop outs are males and there are more females enrolled in schools than males. Young women want to be educated and independently provide for themselves. Males of older generations are upset and belittled by the fact the gender roles have changed and they are essentially useless. If boys want to reclaim their “thrones” they have to earn it just as females did. If the author really wants to blame somebody he should blame the government, since they are the ones who provide funding and education to students.
Both of these articles have strong arguments for incorrect information. One an extremist in males are unemotional and another for females getting more attention than boys. These articles are the total opposite of each other yet are similar in their attacks to the opposite gender of themselves. Amy explains the appeal for androgynous men without really making a good case for them, instead of being positive and accurate she opts for negative and inefficient. Douglas chooses to use boys as victims while underhandedly attacking feminists who use female empowerment to boost confidence, the feminists are not to blame.
Works Citied
Gross, Amy. “The Appeal of the Androgynous Man.” Reading and Writing, Communicating in College. Custom Edition for Seneca College. Toronto. Pearson Custom Publishing. 2006. 24-27
Todd, Douglas. “In a Girl’s World, It Can Be Tough Being a Boy.” Reading and Writing, Communicating in College. Custom Edition for Seneca College. Toronto. Pearson Custom Publishing. 2006. 201-202
samedi 20 décembre 2008
lundi 8 décembre 2008
Birth Order
Decode your birth order
By Lisa Lombardi Want some fresh insight into your love personality? Forget about whether you're a Leo, Pisces or Aquarius; instead, consider whether you're a first-born, middle child, or baby of the family. If you want to understand how you operate in every kind of relationship, "understanding birth order is a lifesaver," stresses psychologist Kevin Leman, Ph.D., author of The Birth Order Book. Read on for your dating personality:
If you're an oldest child
It's no coincidence that most U.S. Presidents were first-borns: This is the sign of natural leaders. You're a take-charge person, so not the type to drive friends and romantic partners crazy asking questions like, "I dunno where we should eat—where do you want to go?" Instead, you'll make sure you have reservations—and land a prime table, too. And anyone lucky enough to pair up with you won't spend weeknights wondering whether he or she has Saturday night plans, because "oldest kids are planners," says Dr. Leman. You're also old-fashioned—in a good way. You always come through on anniversaries and Valentine's Day.
Your love challenge: Being more spontaneous. First-borns aren't the seize-the-day sort (you're not one to text your sweetie to suggest meeting at this fun café you just walked past). Likewise, "you hate surprises," Dr. Leman warns. Pity the fool who springs meeting the parents on you or when you thought it was just the two of you are going out!
Best match: Youngest child. "It's a case of opposites attracting," says Dr. Leman. "You help the last-born be more organized, and the last-born helps you lighten up."
If you're a middle child
Contrary to their rep as insecure messes (think: Jan Brady), middle kids actually make stable and loyal partners. "One thing you're not is spoiled," Dr. Leman says. You probably grew up feeling you got less attention than your sibs, and that drives you to work for every perk—including a happy relationship. Also in the plus category: You're "a compromiser and negotiator," Dr. Leman notes, so you'll give your partner plenty of say in everything from how quickly your relationship progresses to where you go on vacation together. And your romance should be free of daily petty squabbles (middles hate conflict); instead, you try to put others at ease.
Your love challenge: Opening up. Have you ever been told you're hard to read? "Middle children can be very secretive," says Dr. Leman. "They got hammered by the first-born and swindled by the baby, so they keep their cards close to their chest." You're also not the best communicator when you're upset. But if you learn to speak up instead of holding your anger in, you'll have a more harmonious relationship.
Best match: Youngest child. "Middles aren't as threatened by last-borns as they are by exacting first-borns," so the odds are good for open communication, says Dr. Leman.
If you're a youngest child
You're all about fun. The most outgoing kids in the birth order, youngest children live to have a good time (it may be because your parents were more laid-back by the time you came along). On a typical first date you'll have your date laughing so hard beer shoots out his or her nose. In fact, "most famous comedians are youngest children," says Dr. Leman. A partial list: Jon Stewart, Jim Carrey, Ellen DeGeneres, Steve Martin, Eddie Murphy. And forget ho-hum plans, like dinner and a movie: You love to do the unexpected, often on the spur of the moment. You're the type to take someone to a party, only to whisper two minutes later, "Let's get out of here," and then convince your date to take a road-trip to Atlantic City or Vegas for the weekend.
Your love challenge: "Babies are the least financially dependable," warns Dr. Leman (it comes from being, well, babied). So your date may be stuck picking up the tab when your credit card is maxed out. Also, some youngest children — not you, of course! — use that last-born charm and charisma to be a bit, ahem, manipulative, says Dr. Leman. That breed of baby will leave sneak off to hit golf balls with pals, leaving his or her date to fill in at a volunteer gig.
Best match: Oldest child (they serve as a good counterbalance in a parent-child sort of way) or middle child (they value friendships, so they totally understand why you love being the life of the party).
If you're an only child
You're a rock-solid citizen—and sweetie. "Only children are super-reliable," Dr. Leman says. "They're like oldest children to the extreme." Growing up with only adults made you into a little grown-up early on—serious and dependable. You're the rare person who will stay up half the night helping a friend or partner prep for a licensing exam or a big work presentation. You're the type to move your partner's car so he or she doesn't get a ticket. Punctual and true to your word, onlies like you never leave a loved one waiting for a call or email. And you're articulate, too, so your date can expect great conversations that really make a person think.
Your love challenge: Admit it: You're a bit of a perfectionist. Maybe you send back steaks that aren't cooked just so or point out a teeny-tiny stain on your date's sweater. Also, you're so cautious and pragmatic, you can be very slow to act (read: Someone else has to make the first move).
Best match: Youngest kid, because you balance each other out. The baby of the family adds the spontaneity and romance, while you make sure you two aren't dining by candlelight because the electric bill never got paid!
By Lisa Lombardi Want some fresh insight into your love personality? Forget about whether you're a Leo, Pisces or Aquarius; instead, consider whether you're a first-born, middle child, or baby of the family. If you want to understand how you operate in every kind of relationship, "understanding birth order is a lifesaver," stresses psychologist Kevin Leman, Ph.D., author of The Birth Order Book. Read on for your dating personality:
If you're an oldest child
It's no coincidence that most U.S. Presidents were first-borns: This is the sign of natural leaders. You're a take-charge person, so not the type to drive friends and romantic partners crazy asking questions like, "I dunno where we should eat—where do you want to go?" Instead, you'll make sure you have reservations—and land a prime table, too. And anyone lucky enough to pair up with you won't spend weeknights wondering whether he or she has Saturday night plans, because "oldest kids are planners," says Dr. Leman. You're also old-fashioned—in a good way. You always come through on anniversaries and Valentine's Day.
Your love challenge: Being more spontaneous. First-borns aren't the seize-the-day sort (you're not one to text your sweetie to suggest meeting at this fun café you just walked past). Likewise, "you hate surprises," Dr. Leman warns. Pity the fool who springs meeting the parents on you or when you thought it was just the two of you are going out!
Best match: Youngest child. "It's a case of opposites attracting," says Dr. Leman. "You help the last-born be more organized, and the last-born helps you lighten up."
If you're a middle child
Contrary to their rep as insecure messes (think: Jan Brady), middle kids actually make stable and loyal partners. "One thing you're not is spoiled," Dr. Leman says. You probably grew up feeling you got less attention than your sibs, and that drives you to work for every perk—including a happy relationship. Also in the plus category: You're "a compromiser and negotiator," Dr. Leman notes, so you'll give your partner plenty of say in everything from how quickly your relationship progresses to where you go on vacation together. And your romance should be free of daily petty squabbles (middles hate conflict); instead, you try to put others at ease.
Your love challenge: Opening up. Have you ever been told you're hard to read? "Middle children can be very secretive," says Dr. Leman. "They got hammered by the first-born and swindled by the baby, so they keep their cards close to their chest." You're also not the best communicator when you're upset. But if you learn to speak up instead of holding your anger in, you'll have a more harmonious relationship.
Best match: Youngest child. "Middles aren't as threatened by last-borns as they are by exacting first-borns," so the odds are good for open communication, says Dr. Leman.
If you're a youngest child
You're all about fun. The most outgoing kids in the birth order, youngest children live to have a good time (it may be because your parents were more laid-back by the time you came along). On a typical first date you'll have your date laughing so hard beer shoots out his or her nose. In fact, "most famous comedians are youngest children," says Dr. Leman. A partial list: Jon Stewart, Jim Carrey, Ellen DeGeneres, Steve Martin, Eddie Murphy. And forget ho-hum plans, like dinner and a movie: You love to do the unexpected, often on the spur of the moment. You're the type to take someone to a party, only to whisper two minutes later, "Let's get out of here," and then convince your date to take a road-trip to Atlantic City or Vegas for the weekend.
Your love challenge: "Babies are the least financially dependable," warns Dr. Leman (it comes from being, well, babied). So your date may be stuck picking up the tab when your credit card is maxed out. Also, some youngest children — not you, of course! — use that last-born charm and charisma to be a bit, ahem, manipulative, says Dr. Leman. That breed of baby will leave sneak off to hit golf balls with pals, leaving his or her date to fill in at a volunteer gig.
Best match: Oldest child (they serve as a good counterbalance in a parent-child sort of way) or middle child (they value friendships, so they totally understand why you love being the life of the party).
If you're an only child
You're a rock-solid citizen—and sweetie. "Only children are super-reliable," Dr. Leman says. "They're like oldest children to the extreme." Growing up with only adults made you into a little grown-up early on—serious and dependable. You're the rare person who will stay up half the night helping a friend or partner prep for a licensing exam or a big work presentation. You're the type to move your partner's car so he or she doesn't get a ticket. Punctual and true to your word, onlies like you never leave a loved one waiting for a call or email. And you're articulate, too, so your date can expect great conversations that really make a person think.
Your love challenge: Admit it: You're a bit of a perfectionist. Maybe you send back steaks that aren't cooked just so or point out a teeny-tiny stain on your date's sweater. Also, you're so cautious and pragmatic, you can be very slow to act (read: Someone else has to make the first move).
Best match: Youngest kid, because you balance each other out. The baby of the family adds the spontaneity and romance, while you make sure you two aren't dining by candlelight because the electric bill never got paid!
mercredi 26 novembre 2008
hmm
you think its cause we fucked that anything should be different
cause I don't
other than I didn't loathe your company before or afterwards
cause I don't
other than I didn't loathe your company before or afterwards
mardi 28 octobre 2008
Sugarkane + Drunken Butterfly
That's what I feel like inside, this sweet sort of sense of ecstasy.
Smile like a sun
back over time
crazy on you
pleasure is mine
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
here come through it
giving it up
going too far
try understand
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
whisper kiss me here
I'll tell you what I fear
whisper kisses up here
I'll tell you what I fear
come on home
just ain't fair
name of rock'n'roll
where love dies
couldn't find a soul
tell it like it is
deep down inside
drunken butterfly
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name
.........................................................
you're perfect in the way, a perfect end today
you're burning out their lights, and burning in their eyes
I love you Sugar Kane, a-comin' from the rain
oh kiss me like a frog, and turn me into flame
I love you all the time, I need you 8 to 9
and I can stay all night, yr body shining
and I know
there's something down there sugar soul
back to the cross a twisted lane
there something down there sugar kane
I'm back again in love, I'm back again a dove
where'd you get your light, your smilin' sugar life
another lovers day, another cracked up night
every night I say, the light is coming
and I know
there's something down there sugar cone
back to the cross a twisted lane
there's something down there sugar kane
hey angel come and play, and fly me away
a stroll along the beach, until you're out of time
I love you sugar kane, a crack into the dream
I love you sugar kane, I love you sugar kane
I love you sugar kane, I love you sugar kane
I love you sugar kane, I love you sugar
I love being excited about things because it happens so infrequently. It makes me feel like when everything is new. I love new things, i love new loves. Moving does help... point blank.
My coffee tastes like Golden Crisp, which is one of my favorite sugary cereals, today is my sisters birthday. Mine is coming up soon. NOVEMBER 25th a month before xmas don't forget it slutfaces.
I think im going to start making that wishlist, most of it will consist of chocolate or things to make me the fatty that you lovez.
XoX
*Moi*
Smile like a sun
back over time
crazy on you
pleasure is mine
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
here come through it
giving it up
going too far
try understand
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
whisper kiss me here
I'll tell you what I fear
whisper kisses up here
I'll tell you what I fear
come on home
just ain't fair
name of rock'n'roll
where love dies
couldn't find a soul
tell it like it is
deep down inside
drunken butterfly
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name?
I love you I love you I love you
what's your name
.........................................................
you're perfect in the way, a perfect end today
you're burning out their lights, and burning in their eyes
I love you Sugar Kane, a-comin' from the rain
oh kiss me like a frog, and turn me into flame
I love you all the time, I need you 8 to 9
and I can stay all night, yr body shining
and I know
there's something down there sugar soul
back to the cross a twisted lane
there something down there sugar kane
I'm back again in love, I'm back again a dove
where'd you get your light, your smilin' sugar life
another lovers day, another cracked up night
every night I say, the light is coming
and I know
there's something down there sugar cone
back to the cross a twisted lane
there's something down there sugar kane
hey angel come and play, and fly me away
a stroll along the beach, until you're out of time
I love you sugar kane, a crack into the dream
I love you sugar kane, I love you sugar kane
I love you sugar kane, I love you sugar kane
I love you sugar kane, I love you sugar
I love being excited about things because it happens so infrequently. It makes me feel like when everything is new. I love new things, i love new loves. Moving does help... point blank.
My coffee tastes like Golden Crisp, which is one of my favorite sugary cereals, today is my sisters birthday. Mine is coming up soon. NOVEMBER 25th a month before xmas don't forget it slutfaces.
I think im going to start making that wishlist, most of it will consist of chocolate or things to make me the fatty that you lovez.
XoX
*Moi*
lundi 27 octobre 2008
FOUND
Wednesday, October 15, 2008 at 4:38am
It's past 4am and I'm cooking a french dish that my mom taught me how to make.We're so similar its ridiculous.
I'm not worried anymore.
I'm rather relieved. I'm always at my best when I'm on the edge of really losing it. I made my first pair of underwear tonight while watching a documentary on Jack the Ripper, I figured that Sweeney Todd was based on the story since the murders occurred on Fleet Street. There was another documentary about the internet and the creation of Amazon, it just reminded me of when I was 9 years old and I was the first one to have a computer and internet and I was hooked from then on.
I spent years in social isolation and being alone and reveling in that. Reading books, being elitist and not speaking to anyone,because we had nothing in common and there was no reason to waste time on them.
There is a sense of relief when I have nothing.When I'm homeless, jobless and loveless, I'm so happy and maybe its because there are no expectations and not too many people to have to deal with and it means no responsibility no commitment.
This is why living alone appeals to me;I don't want to clean up after other people.I just want to create all day.
It's past 4am and I'm cooking a french dish that my mom taught me how to make.We're so similar its ridiculous.
I'm not worried anymore.
I'm rather relieved. I'm always at my best when I'm on the edge of really losing it. I made my first pair of underwear tonight while watching a documentary on Jack the Ripper, I figured that Sweeney Todd was based on the story since the murders occurred on Fleet Street. There was another documentary about the internet and the creation of Amazon, it just reminded me of when I was 9 years old and I was the first one to have a computer and internet and I was hooked from then on.
I spent years in social isolation and being alone and reveling in that. Reading books, being elitist and not speaking to anyone,because we had nothing in common and there was no reason to waste time on them.
There is a sense of relief when I have nothing.When I'm homeless, jobless and loveless, I'm so happy and maybe its because there are no expectations and not too many people to have to deal with and it means no responsibility no commitment.
This is why living alone appeals to me;I don't want to clean up after other people.I just want to create all day.
Catwoman Speaks
Sunday, October 19, 2008 at 12:06pm | Delete
I had a moment yesterday, let me tell you about it.
So I'm walking down Clark Street to catch the bus and low and behold, I see a good spot. A Green Clothing Donation bin, with tons of crap outside. So I go through a bag, cause all the other stuff is wet and ruined and not interesting regardless. I found 6 designer purses and a pair of BCBG heels. So one of the purses is sorta ugly but it has a perk because it has blue vinyl in it, and I don't know if you know, but vinyl is about 7 dollars a yard and while there isn't much material here, I can still do something with it.
I take it with me as I meet Amandacera at the zoo and we met up with her roommate and got a brief tour, will go back soon I promise! I gave her a choice of what purses she wanted cause there are plenty and she picks this white nine west one and a smaller beaded one. We all go grocery shopping and then go to her friends house and then go back to her apartment. So I had a fun night in Logan Square took two trains to land me back in lake view. In between there was a massive delay on the blue line (thanks CTA) .... You make me hate public transit even more....
As soon as I got back I was so excited about the vinyl, I started making patterns and sewing rough stitches to get a better idea of the fit and where it would need to be sewn with the machine; I could hand sew it but I'm still missing a few pieces.
I had a moment yesterday, let me tell you about it.
So I'm walking down Clark Street to catch the bus and low and behold, I see a good spot. A Green Clothing Donation bin, with tons of crap outside. So I go through a bag, cause all the other stuff is wet and ruined and not interesting regardless. I found 6 designer purses and a pair of BCBG heels. So one of the purses is sorta ugly but it has a perk because it has blue vinyl in it, and I don't know if you know, but vinyl is about 7 dollars a yard and while there isn't much material here, I can still do something with it.
I take it with me as I meet Amandacera at the zoo and we met up with her roommate and got a brief tour, will go back soon I promise! I gave her a choice of what purses she wanted cause there are plenty and she picks this white nine west one and a smaller beaded one. We all go grocery shopping and then go to her friends house and then go back to her apartment. So I had a fun night in Logan Square took two trains to land me back in lake view. In between there was a massive delay on the blue line (thanks CTA) .... You make me hate public transit even more....
As soon as I got back I was so excited about the vinyl, I started making patterns and sewing rough stitches to get a better idea of the fit and where it would need to be sewn with the machine; I could hand sew it but I'm still missing a few pieces.
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